Networking Site for Women and Gay Men is Here, FruitLooped.com

FruitLooped.com is a new website and upcoming app where gay men and straight women can meet up and share what matters to them.

Friendships between gay men and straight women are special. Research on this type of friendship has revealed that women sometimes prefer the advice of gay men over their girlfriends and boyfriends, and gay men likewise trust their straight female friends above others. There’s plenty of dating websites out there–some for hookups, some for dating and romantic relationships, and some for specific age groups and ethnicities. Yet, there hasn’t been any websites that allow straight women and gay men form meaningful connections with one another. Until now.

The mission of our website (and soon-to-be mobile app!) is to provide gay men and straight women with a safe space, where both parties can be “looped” into the latest trends, events, and even advice on how to look good for that one handsome guy.

So, what are some of the features on FruitLooped that help gay men and straight women connect?

Groups

Join a group on FruitLooped and chat about boys, books, marriage, movies, food and more. Start a conversation about a certain topic, comment on threads, or otherwise have discussions on just about anything. They’re all about being open, but they do remind members to keep it classy! :).

Members

Like other dating sites, FruitLooped members can find and “friend” each other, and engage in private conversations. Members may search the site’s directory or browse new additions in hopes of finding the perfect gay man-straight woman connection. There are nearly 3,000 members on FruitLooped, with new members signing up every day.

Blog

The FruitLooped team will regularly contribute to the site’s blog with updates and other useful tips and tricks. Expect the team to moderate group conversations as well.

Join FruitLooped today and meet a friend who makes you laugh and lets you be yourself!

 

Already Out? Thank Your Straight Friends

“I’ve been out for years, so how am I supposed to participate in National Coming Out Day?” asked one of my gay friends. My reply: “Thank your straight friends.”

No, really. Thank your straight friends.

One of the great things about National Coming Out Day is that it sets aside a day for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender to publicly affirm their sexuality. It’s a day of celebration and cathartic release for these individuals. However, the individuals who celebrate are mostly LGBT individuals who have recently come out or who are in the process of coming out. Other LGBT individuals may feel differently about this holiday. In my experience, I have encountered lesbian women and gay men who brush this holiday off because 1) they are already out, and 2) they don’t feel the need to reaffirm their sexuality. Although there is really no changing how gay man and women feel about issue, National Coming Out Day should be more than just affirming your sexual identity. Specifically, Coming Out Day should also be a day where we show our sincerest gratitude and appreciation for those who supported us and accepted us from the very beginning: our straight friends.

coming out

Taking a step back from my usual blog posts, I want to emphasize the important role that gay-supportive men and women (a.k.a. allies) have played in helping young gay men and lesbian women make their transition. Without the unconditional, loving support from our straight friends, there would probably not be a National Coming Out Day. At least in my personal experience, my straight friends were my foundation when I was coming out. I hardly knew any gay people at the time, so I had to rely solely on the support of my straight friends. Reflecting back 5 years ago (seems like only yesterday), not only did my straight friends accept me for who I was, they also provided me with a sense of belonging. That is, even though I thought the words, “I am gay”, automatically isolated me and made me different, they reassured me that nothing had changed. I was still their friend, and I was still Eric. These simple actions taken by my straight friends made all the difference, and their support has ultimately shaped who I have become today.  To me, that is definitely worth celebrating.

Therefore, in honor of today, I say will say this: Celebrate your sexual identity, but also celebrate the straight friends that have supported you.